John Murry of North Kansas City on Life, Lessons & Legacy

We recently had the chance to connect with John Murry and have shared our conversation below.

Good morning John, it’s such a great way to kick off the day – I think our readers will love hearing your stories, experiences and about how you think about life and work. Let’s jump right in? Are you walking a path—or wandering?
Always wandering, walking a path is rigid, and certainly has no real place in my creative space. I mean sure you stay on the path for a moment to get the thing done, but you need to venture back off it again in order to find your next adventure or idea.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is John, also known in small circles as Jeff, or Mr. Biscuits, a lot of that would require a more time to tell then the eventual pay off to the story so ill keep it short. I am the owner and founder of BiscuitTinRPG and I am a TTRPG game designer, which to put it simply means i make things for people to enjoy in a table top environment.

I have worked in multiple mediums starting out in Dungeons and Dragons, where i created content that i felt made the game more fun, i have since then ventured into writing for other studios like Storytellers Forge and now i find myself neck deep in a brand new system i have been designing for called Relict RPG, with aspirations to create my own system in collaboration with a friend.

Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. What part of you has served its purpose and must now be released?
Being adopted at the age of 9 after being sent to live with your step-mothers family for a few years can certainly make one rough around the edges, it didn’t help that i was not exactly raised in a warm and super “understanding of that” environment. I grew up angry, rebellious and just all around unhappy, which certainly didn’t earn me a lot of friends.

I had to learn to let the anger go, its ok to be stubborn on things for sure, sometimes even pushy, but it should never be anger that does it, i had to learn emotional intelligence through a serious of terrible mistakes and i am glad i did, it gave me the tools i needed to succeed on my own terms, remove people and obstacles that serve me no good and not let the little things hurt too much.

No matter what you do you will always have times that you get angry, but if you sit with it, you can use it in a positive way to truly grow and create amazing things.

What fear has held you back the most in your life?
“I’ll never be good enough.”

A general statement that I’m sure a lot of people have, but i never realized it till much later in life, why i never tried. The answer was always simple, if you never try, you can’t let anybody down.

I fought my way past that when i first started writing and haven’t looked back since. I can always improve for sure and there will always be someone out there better than i am but that’s okay. Most people i know in my field talk about imposter syndrome when i talk about that fear, and when they explain it to me it’s always been so alien, i think knowing that I’m good enough for me really helps keep that proverbial monster at bay.

So whether its a version of imposter syndrome i had or just the want to be left alone i worked through it and I am happy i did, cause this is a fantastic ride i have found myself on.

I think our readers would appreciate hearing more about your values and what you think matters in life and career, etc. So our next question is along those lines. What important truth do very few people agree with you on?
It’s ok to just cut people out of your life.

So many times people tell me that they have struggles with a person in their family, a friend is acting like an ass, or any number of other weird things that on their own would just be a road bump for most, but with some prying you can usually tell the difference between a problematic person or just someone having a bad day.

I am talking about the people that actively are problematic, it could be a cold and distant mother who takes no responsibility, or a friend that you suddenly realize was never really a friend at all, or any number of other issues.

You are allowed to remove them from your day to day and not engage them, its fine, blood relations mean nothing when they cause you nothing but heartache and pain.

In the end if they are ruining your day on a near constant basis or they just aren’t your vibe, move along you will find people that are.

Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. If you knew you had 10 years left, what would you stop doing immediately?
Nothing, I like to think i live my life pretty well, i mean towards the end i would absolutely stop working if able, but in the end i live each day to the best i can, if i suddenly learned i had 10 years left i would keep on keeping on.

I live my life with no regrets, its easier that way.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://biscuittinrpg.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biscuittinrpg/
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-murry-89428281/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnWM8488
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@biscuittinrpg

Image Credits
Black Ballad by Storytellers Forge