Check Out Rachel Pointer’s Story

Today we’d like to introduce you to Rachel Pointer.

Rachel, we appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us today. Where does your story begin?
Seven years ago, I was a middle-aged mom who was living the life I had always wanted. I had the privilege of staying at home with my 2 young children. My husband had a great job and I felt like I could love on family and friends in our community through hospitality, showing up for others when they were sick, and participating in community events such as KindCraft and local charities which felt meaningful.

So when I began to feel restless, I felt guilty about it. What more could I want? Why was I discontent? I found myself diving into books and listening to podcasts. Sometimes, I would lay awake at night thinking of possibilities of what I could do in this world. Other times, I couldn’t sleep and would find myself at 4 in the morning watching a documentary, crying and journaling about what I felt moved by.

I felt a stirring in my soul and as I followed the bread crumbs offered to me through an array of resources, it became clear to me: I needed to heal some childhood wounds, I needed to become a confident person, I desperately wanted to overcome my social anxiety, and gain some knowledge and skills so that somehow I could empower others to also transform their inner life.

I say “inner life” because, for many of us, our outer life checks all the boxes. I believe our souls, which know they were created to be a powerful force for good in our world know that we need to grow, challenge ourselves, and evolve who we are. As I continued on this inner work, it became clear to me that I wanted to become a Life Coach so that I had the knowledge and tools to help others radically transform who they are and help them find their unique calling so they can live a fulfilled life. I grew up in a large family, 10 kids to be exact! It was fun, it was challenging, but more than anything, it taught me some rules for life that I now live by.

1. There is always room for 1 more. I value people feeling welcomed and a sense of belonging in my life, home, and business. 2. There is always enough. From mealtime, as a kid to now being a business owner, I love to collaborate and work with other coaches. I believe that there is more than enough for all talent and work so rather than being in competition, I view other business owners as a generous reservoir of talent to learn from as well as resources to offer my clients and friends. 3. Radical Generosity is my theme for life and business. Even though there were 12 of us in my home growing up, my parents valued a beautiful orderly atmosphere.

From our dinner table always set with real dishes filled with scrumptious home-cooked meals, to how we were dressed, to how our home was decorated and kept clean, it was a generous atmosphere. I have come to believe that the more we work on our inner world, which can include: healing traumas, overcoming limiting beliefs, becoming aware of our real identity, and building a foundation of beliefs that support confidence and service.

All of this builds to create an atmosphere of inner generosity which then spills over into the atmosphere and people around us. My dream is to build a movement that combats fear and scarcity in our world and allows people to feel their own inner freedom and greatness. From this place, they can spread love, service, kindness, peace, and joy… which may just change the world.

I’m sure you wouldn’t say it’s been obstacle-free, but so far would you say the journey has been a fairly smooth road?
My social anxiety was my biggest obstacle. I’ve always loved people and wanted to encourage and empower them. However, because of a near-death experience when I was 11 months old, my nervous system was wired to be triggered by perceived threats, which happened to be people!

Once my dream and calling became so compelling that my fear had to go, I did quite a bit of therapy, exercises, meditation, and re-programming my mind and nervous system to be at ease. This took about 18 months, but I can say it feels incredible to be free of it!

Once I had the confidence to move forward, I joined speaking groups, gained skills to take my business online, and do ongoing work to remind myself, I am called and capable to lead others to transform their life!

Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your work?
I chose artist and creative because it is my belief that we are all creating our own experience of this life. Our thoughts lead to words. Our words lead to actions and this determines what we do in this life and how we experience it. When I work with clients, we go deep to uncover what their beliefs are, how they were formed, and why they adopted that belief system.

We discover who they believe they are and what they are worthy of. Once we decide what beliefs have been harmful and limiting, we let those go through some really beautiful exercises. Then we have a clear canvas to construct the life that allows them to expand into the powerful person they truly are!

As they take on this new identity and beliefs, their purpose and calling become clear. So in this way, I see each person and client as a potential beautiful masterpiece to be discovered!

Can you talk to us about how you think about risk?
I believe we are naturally wired to stay safe. In this time in our world and evolution, that often looks like conforming to our culture, religion we were raised in, roles we adopted in our childhood, and accepting and reproducing the environment we grew up in. Questions threaten to disrupt all of that! This is what makes me a risk-taker! I dared to question the labels I was given such as “the shy one”, the peacemaker, the go-to person for anyone and everyone.

I loved some of these labels but they seemed to keep me in a box and hindered me from discovering who I truly was. I questioned my role as a mom. I absolutely loved it, but I knew I was called to do something beyond being a mom. If I had not questioned that, I never would have discovered my life’s calling of empowering other women to ask the same questions. One of the greatest risks I took… which caused me to cry for about 2 years straight! lol. was questioning the religion I grew up with. I felt like I was questioning my parents, the church, even God and that felt daunting.

However, the more I questioned doctrines, theology, views of who God was, the more I felt like I was climbing out of a boat into the expansive ocean. It felt scary… even arrogant at times, but even more than those feelings, I felt God was calling me out of what was a safe place for most of my life, to discover who I truly was and more of who He was. I found incredible loving mentors and friends through this journey and I know I am not alone in many of these questions! While I may still have more questions than compact, precise answers, that feels more honest to me, than a God who is defined and described in a couple of sentences or pages of a catechism or book.

To me, life has become a risk-taking journey, a way of living with radical generosity, and daring to follow the steps toward a dream that is not clearly defined. The risk of this way of living is believing that we are Divinely guided by a presence that is only capable of life, love, and relationship. This is the closest I come to defining something that is so great and beyond this physical world. The other huge risk I have taken is daring to believe I could be a leader.

For most of my life, I loved to encourage and support others. I was such a great genuine cheerleader! When I would see someone teaching or speaking, I trembled at the thought of me doing that, however, something inside of me knew I was meant to lead others. As I overcame social anxiety, public speaking, and fear of being in the spotlight, I started taking more and more steps to push myself to be uncomfortable, show up whether I felt qualified or not, and believe that my calling was greater than my fears.

Pricing:

• 1:1 Coaching $175.00 per hour
• Hypnosis $200.00 per session
• Subscription to group coaching $45.00 per month
• Self-guided courses $35 per course

Contact Info:

• Email: [email protected]
• Website: rachelpointer.co
• Instagram: @rachelpointer.co
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rachel.pointer.3